Three Things

Here are three simple fitness tips to implement NOW if you aren’t already:

  1. Have a plan. You say you spend an hour at the gym and still aren’t seeing results…but 15 of those minutes are spent finding a parking spot, 15 minutes spent checking your phone, and 10 minutes in line to purchase a smoothie. So really you accomplished 20 minutes of actual exercise. Instead of wasting your time and money, develop a four-six week plan for specifically what you’re going to do at the gym (or at home). If you don’t know how to create a plan on your own, hire a trainer to help you. I offer online training for people who live 30 miles or more from Tulsa’s Sky Fitness & Wellbeing, where I work. I’d love to help. Write this plan down somewhere and mark through the days as you accomplish the workouts. No more time-wasting. More room for margin.

    These girls build camaraderie by working out in small groups. When they realize they are an integral part of a team, they show up. Also they pay money to motivate them. That helps.

    These girls build camaraderie by working out in small groups. When they realize they are an integral part of a team, they show up. Also they paid money. That helps.

  2. Create a habit. Set out your gym bag the night before, keep sneakers (and socks) in your car, plan to meet a workout partner, run stairs during your lunch breaks, cook meatless Mondays, walk the track at the end of the school day, take the kids on a bike ride every Saturday, eat a green smoothie for breakfast every morning, etc. Do it for at least 60 days and it should become a ritual. Once you’ve established the habit, now add variety within that consistency. Change up your workouts, the ingredients in your smoothie, do your neighborhood running route backward, etc.       I’ve been reading The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg. It’s eye-opening regarding why we do what we do. Habits are best maintained with triggers (gym bag, sneakers laced up, trainer waiting on you at the gym, you notice your kids developing your own bad habits, clothing that’s too snug, etc.) and rewards (the shake you’ll purchase once you finish your workout, coffee, the powerful feeling you get from lifting weights, the way your clothes fit better/looser, compliments from friends, a vacation you’re looking forward to, etc.).

    We walk or ride bikes everywhere. Then we make Finn wheel around so he gets exercise too. Our reward is always coffee.

    We walk or ride bikes everywhere. Then we make Finn wheel around so he gets exercise too. Our reward is always coffee.

  3. Focus on behavior change, not the outcome. Instead of concentrating on the end goal, pour your energy into the process. “I will work out 5 times this week.” Not “I will lose 2 pounds this week.” Chances are, if you eat well and workout until you’re uncomfortable 5x, you’ll lose those 2 pounds anyway. Marathon runners make progress with every passing mile, not by crossing the finish line.

    These three studs show up to just about every cycling class of mine. Two of them are in their early 80's! They choose the same bike every time, have the same routine for getting on and off the bike, but they are MOVING and they've established a healthy habit.

    These three studs show up to just about every cycling class of mine. Two of them are in their early 80’s! They choose the same bike every time, ask each other the same questions, and tell the same jokes…and are doing a whole lot of good for their bodies in the process. They’re not worried about cholesterol or losing pounds. They just want to keep moving.

Wheelchair Love

Sometimes I forget that Finn is different. He does everything three year olds do. Just most of those things he does sitting between two wheels.

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Every now and then I’m surprised when others react to him.

Like last week I came to pick Finn up from school and four tiny girls crowded he and I at the door. They asked a million innocent questions, from “Why is he in that wheelchair?” to “How does he sit in the car?” to “Why does he still wear diapers?” Kennedy even told me that she used to have a pink wheelchair when she was a baby. I think she was confused. 🙂

After I had fielded the questions as best as I could and we were trying to squeeze through the door, Finn asked if he could give one little girl a hug. She was standing in front of him staring. She said, “No, he can’t give hugs. He’s in a wheelchair.” My stomach dropped and so did Finn’s countenance. “He’s great at giving hugs,” I said.  “Watch!” We hugged and I pulled her in too. Finn zoomed away unfazed, but I was reminded that three year olds don’t typically roll. He’s different.

Our LifeKids volunteers at church are incredible. Saints. One woman in particular told us a story about Finn from Family Reunion.

Our pastors told this story from stage this weekend.

Our pastors told this story from stage this weekend.

She wasn’t too thrilled to be serving that day, if she was being honest. She reluctantly entered the three year old classroom where she thought she’d simply keep the peace and wipe snotty noses. I’m sure she did plenty of that, but she was also blessed by the attitude of our little man. She said he was joyful, interactive with the other kids, and at one point he made her day:

“Can I tell you a secret?” Finn whispered in her ear, “Jesus loves me…and my wheelchair.”

I love this because Finn recognizes–better than I do–that God loves the things that make us different. No, I do not believe God delights in the fact that Finn is disabled. But I believe God delights in Finn despite his disability. And maybe even more so because of it. He wheels through crowds like he owns the place, unaware of (or indifferent toward) the staring and pointing that is so natural.

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I know a day will come when Finn’s confidence will be shaken, but I’ll revel in his courage and self-assuredness until then.

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Do you love the things about you that make you different?

LC Family Reunion 2015

Last week, over 500 staff and their family members met at the Life.Church OKC campus for three days of worship, lip syncing, speaking, eating, laughing, running, sharing and listening intently.

We shared our hotel room with our sweet littles and several sacrificial LC volunteers took care of them while we enjoyed connecting with other staff members and re-focusing on our vision and mission as a Church.

“We don’t preach morality. We preach Christ.” -Pastor Craig Groeschel

“We aren’t about numbers. Every number is a person. Every person is a story. Every story matters to God.” -CG

“The Great Commission tells us the when (“go now”) and the where (“into all the world”), but not the how. Because the how needs to change.” -CG

I was overwhelmed in the very best way. Monday night, I sat on the edge of my seat, leaning into the vision of this Church we are fortunate enough to call our own.

Steven Furtick

Steven Furtick gave a characteristically fantastic message

The leadership here is unmatched. Creativity unbridled. Excellence expected. The gospel boldly proclaimed. Generosity flowing. Health encouraged. So lives are being changed…including ours.

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I have so many stories to tell, so much respect for our leadership and so much stinkin’ gratitude, I’d just bore you to death. So I’ll tell these stories through pictures instead.  Here goes…

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In honor of LC’s 20th anniversary, the dress code was formal. So fun to be fancy with my handsome date.

Worship during Reunion rattled my heart in a new way. I was reverent and excited all at once.

Worship during Reunion rattled my heart in a new way. I was reverent and overjoyed all at once.

We thanked Craig and Amy for 20 years of sacrificial leadership. They are humble and full of integrity.

We thanked Craig and Amy for 20 years of sacrificial leadership. They are humble and full of integrity.

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The Broken Arrow LC staff is THE BEST! Seriously.

I loved the DLT's (Directional Leadership Team) Q & A session.

I loved the DLT’s (Directional Leadership Team) Q & A session.

Kristen and I shared our stories (along with 6 others) during a breakout session on fitness and faith called Drop the Mic.

Kristen and I shared our stories (along with 6 others) during a breakout session on fitness and faith called Drop the Mic.

Scott and Joey brought the kids while Kristen and I had stage practice the first night. Best dads ever.

Scott and Joey brought the kids while Kristen and I had stage practice the first night. Best dads ever.

Kristen shared about her childhood and I shared about Finn.

Kristen shared about her childhood and I shared about Finn.

Here are the other fantastic people who shared their stories during Drop the Mic. Kristen and I were the only spouses who spoke during breakout sessions. Intimidating and such an honor!

Here are the other fantastic people who shared their stories during Drop the Mic. Kristen and I were the only spouses who spoke during breakout sessions. Intimidating and such an honor!

Finn was star-struck when he met Mr. Music in our hotel lobby! Gi-ddy little boy! Listen to LifeKids' Mr. Music on iTunes for free! Your kids will love it!

Finn was star-struck when he met Mr. Music in our hotel lobby! Gi-ddy little boy! Listen to LifeKids’ Mr. Music on iTunes for free! Your kids will love it!

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The 1996 worship set skit had Joey and I in stitches. Complete with hits like “Jehovah Jireh” and “Shout to the Lord,” tamborines, fake trees, projector screen and all.

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We ended the reunion by 200 of us running a 5k! I loved the example our church led of a healthy church body. Joey and I both PR’d!

We left Reunion grateful, humbled and inspired to give more and lead better.

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